My son was ashamed of me and said: ’I don’t want people to think we came together,’ so I repaid him in the same manner
Raising a teenager can push even the most composed parents to their limits.. Read full story in comment.
Adolescence, often characterized by emotional turbulence, rebellion, and the quest for independence, presents a unique set of challenges for both teenagers and their parents. This transition from childhood to adulthood is filled with moments of growth, self-discovery, and inevitable friction. However, amidst the chaos and uncertainty, lies an opportunity for parents to cultivate patience, understanding, and encouragement.
During their teen years, youngsters strive for autonomy and independence, and sadly, this sometimes results in conflicts with their parents.
Most often, moms and dads out there struggle to balance between granting independence and maintaining authority.
In this rather complex relationship, parents need to learn when to loose their reins and when to provide guidance while maintaining open communication.
A mom shared how her son felt ashamed of her and her husband. He didn’t want to be seen with them, and even asked to be left a block away from where he was supposed to be so that he friends won’t see it is his parents who give him a ride.
In an attempt to teach him a lesson, the mom decided to act the same way.
Take a look at her story below.
As she felt she could no longer put up with his behavior, she decided to take things in her own hands and deal with the “issue” the best way she could.
If you are a parent of a teenager and you somehow find yourself in a similar situation consider some of these strategies:
1. Don’t take it personally: Keep in mind that you once was a teenager and that adolescence is a tumultuous period, and such behavior is a natural part of it. Your child’s action isn’t truly a reflection of your worth as a parent.
2. Avoid conflict: While parents typically desire respectful communication from their children, there may be times when they express themselves using inappropriate language. Instead of immediately reprimanding them, consider ending the conversation.
3. Give them attention and affection on their own terms: The truth is that the more you try to be close with them, the more they push back. In order to create a better relationship with your teenage child, try to offer them some of the autonomy they long for. When you express a desire to spend time with them let them decided when and where they would like you to go.
4. Talk to other parents: Make sure you stay in touch with other parents who are raising teenagers and share experiences.
5. Remember how you felt at their age: Practicing empathy can help you understand your child’s perspective and realize that their actions aren’t personal attacks. Reflecting on your own experiences during that time can serve as a helpful reminder of this common dynamic.
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Now that mom has bought a bus pass for her son it can be his choice whether to ride with mom or take the bus...but she she has to offer him that choice, not say you have to take the bus from now on. Add " if you don't wish to ride with me".
ReplyDeleteAgree 100%
DeleteI would have done the same but u embarrass of me. No thing from no money no rides. Great parents.
ReplyDeleteIf I ever acted like this there would have been serious consequences. I never ever would have even dreamed of acting like this CHILD did. Even the advice attached is probably from someone who did act like the CHILD in this article,!!!!
ReplyDeleteThese days there is way too much advice and thoughts of needing to be children’s friends instead of their parents! They are given way to many rights as children and as a result they think the world evolves around them and that the parents can’t do a thing about it!
You nailed it. That’s exactly why we have kids who feel they are entitled & can do what they
DeleteWant when they want with no consequences.
Exactly,he would have nothing until his attitude got right,these parents should not have kids
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DeleteI agree with mom. You have to learn how to show respect. It goes both ways.
ReplyDeleteMe too.
DeleteOMG as someone who was a first up, baby boomer, born the same year as the end of WW2, the thought my parents even gave us a choice about anything is laughable. We were not supposed to be in the house until dinner time, we went to school when and where it was predetermined, if we talked back to a teacher there were severe consequences. And using the one telephone, attached to the wall was forbidden for a month, as was watching TV. We were inside after dinner, and if our homework wasn’t done before we were made to go find someplace else to be, outside in the fresh air, we would be inside for a couple of weeks!.. what a bunch of nonsense regarding teenagers these days. I thought it couldn’t get worse than the 80;s, but it certainly did. Everyone is “entitled today” and the world is crap, and full of brats and their parents that taught them nothing….like get a job or be in school! Keep a job and quit complaining. Grow the heck up! Like every generation did before you.
ReplyDeleteI definitely agree with you. Parents let the kids get away with to much. If I did half of what the kids do t I day, I would have never seen daylight!
DeleteI would have never acted like this kid because I was taught as a young child what was right and wrong. My parents were parents and didn’t act like my best friends. I wasn’t asked if I wanted to go someplace, I was told we were going someplace. That is how it should be.
DeleteOh, heck no. If one of my kids had treated me like this, the only thing they would openly get from me would have been a roof over their heads and food. If they wanted more, they could get a job and get it themselves. The fact that so many of you parents want to coddle your kids when they openly disrespect you is disgusting. No, they wouldn't get to choose me or the bus, they're on the bus. No new expensive shoes or clothes from me. And games, if they forbid me to go, I forbid them to play. Respect gets respect. When they get their heads out of their proverbial behinds, then we'll talk about it. I don't care what any of you so-called parents think about my comment. Your way is what's wrong with society today. None of my kids acted like this. It wouldn't have been accepted from the start. I included my kids in any decision pertaining to them. They were not ruled with an iron hand. They were raised to be able make decisions for themselves and I was loved and respected by them and they knew I would gladly die for them. Be a parent and the friendship will come naturally 99% of the time.
ReplyDeleteabsolutely agree with these parents...this going along with teenagers rudeness and willingness to hurt others feelings is rubbish ...this is why we have these rude entitled kids is listening to people like these idiot "EXPERTS" ..the golden rule do into others as you would have them do into you is what needs to be taught here.. Im we raised 5 good kids hardworking polite devoted to us and their own families and we never would have allowed our children to treat us like this ever !!
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately this whole world is turning upside down. Parents raise their kids and not the other way around! It doesn’t hurt to discipline your children, even if it hurts your heart so bad, at the end they will either become good humans or messed up in their brain! It is always the parent’s fault how a child behaves, I NEVER blame the kids! So go and freaking raise children or don’t have any! We have enough Idiots running around!
ReplyDeleteYou cannot wait til a child becomes a teenager to start making g them mind.
ReplyDeleteWhat's cute at two ad three is not cute then and neither is it cute as a teenager
Start teaching the. When they start talking .
I was surprised but agreed to conditions. They were hoist on their own petard when I walked past the shop where we usually had a milkshake. Boys outgrew it quickly, girl not much different thirty years later
ReplyDeleteNever had any problems with my son or daughter. They were given loads of love & praise plus the odd 'clip round the ear' when they overstepped. Now they are great adults I am proud of.
ReplyDeleteThis is insane! You are the PARTENT! Act like it! Take charge! When my daughter was 10 I took her to school, she didn't want to kiss me goodbye in front of her "friends". I said what a minute....when you are 30, you will still kiss me goodbye....if your friends have anything to say....you tell them..."well my daddy loves me"....we never discussed it again....and that is the end of that story, but the beginning of another....you WILL respect your parents or life as you know it will end. I took the door off of my teenage son's room and told him. if he wanted privacy he would pay rent. The rent being respectful to the house and everyone in it! Parenting is hard....but if you try to be their friend you are doomed! We MUST protect our children, even from themselves! NEVER concede! Also, let them be children and know they will make mistakes! But being disrespectful should never be allowed.....PERIOD!
ReplyDeleteMy mom usually was very tolerant and enjoyed my spirited personality. But the first and only time that I stepped over the line and said an insulting and disrespectful comment, it was answered with a hard slap! I never did that again and I never got slapped again.
ReplyDeleteGood life lesson Mama. Disrespectful, Entitled kids grow up to be broken adults that the world has to deal with. Good job teaching him manners and providing discipline. values, morals, integrity, character are taught and learned during childhood. If there were more parents like you the world would be a better place as they grow into adulthood. Being a good parent is not giving your kids everything. It is teaching them by example so they will have wings to fly on their own when they mature into a adulthood.
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